Q:How long does it usually take for your period to stop on T? I'm 25mg for the first four weeks and 50mg after that and I don't know what timeline to expect.
Zak: It depends. Mine definitely stopped within the first 3 months, but I forget exactly when. I started out on basically the same dose I’m at now, though. I’d say within the first few months is a pretty typical timeline, though. As with all things about testosterone, though, your results may vary. We have a lot of people who write in saying their periods will go away for awhile and then unexpectedly come back, especially if they skip a dose. A lot of this stuff is just hard to predict.
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BOIS, we spend way too much money on our shoes not to take care of them. If you own leather shoes, here are some simple ways to take care of them posted by Paul Parkman. Your leather shoes could last you a lifetime if you take care of them.
Shoe Care 101
- Shine your shoes after you buy them and before you buy them and before you wear them. Shine them regularly for as long as you own them.
- When you remove your shoes, insert a cedar shoe tree to draw out inner moisture and reshape the leather.
- Remove a salt stain as quickly as possible by lightly applying a mixture of 2/3 water. 1/3 vinegar with a rag. Wiping off with clean dap rag and drying with a towel.
- Waterproof your shoes with mink oil (may darken the color of the leather). A wax-based polish (light protection) or a speciality waterproofing compound (heavier protection).
- Clean your shoes regularly to remove dirt, stains, and layers of built-up polish. Use a speciality leather cleaner, saddle soap. Murphy’s Oil Soap, or Ivory soap and avoid products that contain detergents or acids.
- To keep your shoes from drying out, every few months apply a speciality moisturizing conditioner or buff in a dab or petroleum jelly.
- If your shoes are wet, stuff them with newspaper or small towel to draw out the moisture. Replace the paper towels periodically as they get saturated. Never place your shoes near A head source; this can dry out and crack the leather.
- Remove scuff marks by rubbing the scuff with non-gel toothpaste. Rinse, wipe, and let dry.
- If your shoe manufacturer has this option, when your shoes becomes really worn out, send them back to the manufacturer for refurbishing or resoling instead of buying a new pair.
The vinegar/water solution has been literally saving my boots from the salt this winter
Q:So I had been wondering.... there are "vitamins for woman" which increase estrogen and provide other needed vitamins and nutrients needed in a women's body. But what if I were to take vitamins for men? Would that negatively effect by body?
Zak: Daily vitamins for men and women generally differ in that women’s vitamins have more calcium to prevent osteoporosis and stuff like that. It shouldn’t do much if you take a men’s daily vitamin, that wouldn’t make a big difference. If you’re talking about the estrogen supplement stuff that is intended for women in menopause, I’d say the testosterone boosting counterparts of that wouldn’t do much for you. I know there are people who are big advocates of “natural transition” through supplements, and we get questions like this one literally at least every week. We’re not doctors or medical experts, so we can’t really say one way or another with any authority about this. However from what I’ve personally read and seen, I’d say supplements aren’t a really safe and effective way to go about things. Others might disagree, but in the US vitamins and supplements aren’t very well regulated. If it would really boost your t, you wouldn’t want to take it without seeing a doctor to monitor your health. If it wouldn’t really boost your t, it would t be worth the money. So, in my opinion it’s not really a good choice. Again, other people have other experiences and may disagree.
Q:I don't want to come out until I move out, due to my parents making transphobic remarks and generally being against the LGBT+ community, but I feel guilty about not wanting to come out sooner. Like, they might get upset- Any advice you can provide?
Zak: I generally think it’s a good idea to wait until you are moved out or less under your parents’ control/at their mercy to come out if you suspect you’re going to get a really bad response. So, I’d say your decision there is reasonable. You’re the one who knows your family best, so you’re really the expert here. The only thing I would say is that it can *sometimes* be difficult to predict who will respond poorly. Some more homophobic people I know took my coming out as trans surprisingly well, whereas some of my gay-friendly or even gay friends and family were less supportive because they didn’t understand why I couldn’t just be a butch lesbian. Again, you know your family best, but homophobia does not *always* equal transphobia (and being gay positive does not always equal being trans positive).
Keeping things all pent up while you’re living with your family is tough and so I feel bad advocating to stay in the closet. However, I’ve heard too many stories of people getting kicked out to urge people to come out regardless of their circumstances. Use your judgement and be safe. Do what you’ve got to do to get yourself through this time (Kate Bornstein’s book Hello Cruel World comes to mind, might be worth taking a look at). Maybe set up a countdown for when you can move out or throw yourself into saving money in preparation or plans for college. If it helps you, find people you can talk to about this stuff online or in person. Just try to get through it and remember that it will get better when you’re out from under their roof.
Q:I'm 38 and only started to id as trans 6 months ago, but it's been consistent every day since then. I plan on transitioning using informed consent for a t script as I'm not into therapy so please don't suggest therapy heh. Do you have any advice or anecdotes to share about how long the 'test of time' should be in order to make sure of the decision before medical intervention? It's so weird to me I'm so old to be realizing this, but is so much a part of me know, I'm not myself until I transition.
Zak: You know, I think that depends on the person. I waited something like a year before I felt confident to move forward with hormones and surgery. The real life experience, which was basically a requirement for living “full time” and being able to hold down a job/go to school and integrate in society, used to be something like a year. Maybe there’s something to waiting a year if you’re concerned about making sure these feelings are for real or that you’re ready for medical intervention. I don’t know. Ultimately it’s up for you to decide how long feels right if you go the informed consent route. I’d say three months to a year sounds reasonable, but I think it totally depends on you, how much thought you are putting into this, how sure you feel, etc.
Hope that helps!
ANNAPOLIS, Md.–The Maryland Senate on Tuesday approved a bill that would ban discrimination based on gender identity and expression in the state.
The measure passed by a 32-15 vote margin after senators debated on its third reading for less than 20 minutes.
“I just hope people realize this is a fairness issue,” said state Sen. Allan Kittleman (R-Howard County).
“It is not our job to discriminate,” added state Sen. Delores Kelly (D-Balitmore County) before the vote. “The bill is carefully crafted. The definitions are clear”
State Sen. Bryan Simonaire (R-Anne Arundel County) questioned the definitions of public accommodations and gender identity in SB 212. The Anne Arundel County Republican also sought additional religious protections in the measure that state Sen. Jamie Raskin (D-Montgomery County) maintained already exist.
“The intent of this bill is discrimination,” said Simonaire. “There is an absence of religion.”
State Sen. Rich Madaleno (D-Montgomery County), who introduced SB 212, applauded its passage.
“Today marks a historic milestone in the continued fight to advance equal rights for all Marylanders,” he said in a statement. “The Senate’s passage of the Fairness for All Marylanders Act sends a reaffirming message throughout our state that regardless of whom you are, prejudice and discrimination will no longer be tolerated or exempted from law. With these new anti-discrimination protections for transgender persons one step closer to full passage.”
“Today is a huge day for transgender rights in Maryland,” added Equality Maryland Executive Director Carrie Evans. “With their vote, 32 Senators stood up to say no one should be denied the opportunity to work for a living, secure housing or eat lunch at a restaurant just because of their gender identity.”
Gender Rights Maryland Executive Director Dana Beyer, who announced her candidacy against Madaleno in late January, specifically applauded her opponent in a statement after senators approved the measure. She also praised Senate Judicial Proceedings Committee Chair Brian Frosh (D-Montgomery County), former Equality Maryland Executive Director Dan Furmansky and “the trans community who came every year to Annapolis to lobby and tell their stories.”
Q:Just so you know ftmmemes can be really transphobic/cissexist.
Who? I’m confused bc that’s not where the meme we just posted was from?Edit: oh, I guess it is from them